The Relationship Handbook

Monday, 29. July 2019

We have simply moved beyond the need for the old beliefs. We can release them because they have the most elegant options available to us now. Choice “N The third and final step is the choice. Once we are aware of our own beliefs and we have absolute control over them. Now we can choose to change our beliefs and change our reality. We have the power to change our lives completely in a moment, we simply need to choose to do so now. I’m sure cake has heard similar statements of motivation of any number of sources. While it is essentially true that we can change our lives with a simple choice, it is also important to read the small print: We must continue to make the choice again and again and again and again and again. The now when we decided to change our lives and is in the past. We must continue until the election of our new options, expectations and beliefs have become a habit. We need to continue to choose new options until we become second nature to us. Our past experiences certainly affect us. Shape our beliefs and expectations. As we continue to be guided by the past, we create experiences in the future. The past does not equal the future unless you choose to carry the past with us.

The cliche, “there is no time like the present” is not entirely correct. The truth is that there is no time except the present. The only time that matters is now. The past is irrelevant there is still future. The only place where we can act, in which we create, we can choose is now. While the past does not have influence or shape the future, many of the options and thoughts and expectations we had in the past are the old habits, and as the saying goes, old habits are hard to break. This is the stage where the progress of technology has eliminated almost a metaphor perfectly. Remember vinyl records? Those big things that came before CDs? The grooves on a record represents our old patterns. Records may be scratched, that’s one reason that the CDs are so popular, in fact-and zero represents a shift or a break in the pattern of age. The only way to change the age pattern is interrupted often enough that a new model begins to form. Our patterns are like grooves in the records. The larger the pattern, the deeper the groove, and further disruptions to take before making any permanent change in the pattern. Every time we realize that it has become back to our old, negative behaviors, we decided to take a different path. Sometimes we can be so caught up in our old patterns that can not seem to stop ourselves. It is essential that we can not beat ourselves by not being able to change old habits and behaviors at the first attempt (or even second or third attempt)! It may not have completely eliminated the pattern, but that has changed is this: The fact that we knew we were representing a pattern of age is, in itself, a change in that pattern. Every time we find the pattern, you will realize that before. Finally, we will also be able to interrupt the pattern. And when we break our old patterns, we have the power to choose a different answer, more elegant and supportive.

Financial Beast

Friday, 15. August 2014

Are holiday bills shocking truth? Are you hoping that if you ignore your finances long enough, may themselves be fixed? Let’s compare our finances to a garden. If we neglect the garden, the weeds grow and take over. The garden gets so bad that not even want to watch! But with a little maintenance and tending the garden becomes a pleasure. The first step towards creating a happy financial garden is to learn to save. Why bother saving? Before delving into the place often afraid to know the amount of money entering and leaving, we must find a reason to dig deep. You need to know why you want to save mo’ney. Want to own your home, achieve financial independence, get a holiday home on an island? Or just want financial peace which is not worrying about money? Once you get that vision of what you want to accomplish you will have the motivation to examine its finances.

Financial Dream. How much does it cost to fulfill its vision? Resolve some figures, write your estimate. This is your financial goal. When to achieve their financial dreams? 5 years, 10 years, 20 years? Now you know, not just the amount needed when. This tells how much he must save each year to achieve your goal on time. Look at your finances. You can not bury our heads in the sand of the garden of your finances or chopping away with shrubs and weeds the size of the trees. You know what you want when you want and how much to save.

Learn To Say No !

Sunday, 30. January 2011

How many times have you agreed to do something that really did not want to do? For someone at work? Your friends? Even your spouse? All I had to do was say no, but the word never came out. So you end up doing? And later resent. A coaching client told me that he agreed with the things he did not want to do, but for some reason, felt compelled to do them. Instead of taking the enjoyment in the task, later her feel angry and resentful toward the person she had told esiu a. Then he went with a list of reasons why I wanted to say no. I stopped saying, “You are even justify to me!” We feel that we have to justify ourselves and give good reason to say no. Although the reason is simply: “I do not want.” Check-in with yourself. I asked my client what was one thing he could do to work on this.

She suggested they start to check with her before saying yes or not. You may wonder, “Is this right for me?” Count on doing what is right and feels good with you. And if there is something for you, try to express that. Have Fun With It! Saying no does not have to be serious or angry. My client also wanted to lighten up, so you are encouraged to try stirring a little, to have fun with it. You can try different answers like, “No, never in my life” or “care for your baby – Are you crazy?” What are some other great answers you can try to say no more fun? Make a list.

I suggested to my customers in the areas and people in your life, where there were more problems than not. I told her what I was doing with that list. Where have trouble saying no? Is it perhaps time to have some honest conversations with people? Try this: “This is what I’ve been doing. I have said yes when I wanted to say no. I’m starting to feel resentful and do not want to feel that way. I do not want to offend you, and I have to start listening to myself. “At least have a heads-up that things can be a little different from now one. Y – helps you make an internal change. Dar step. So what’s the worst that could happen to say no? You may lose some people in your life that are used to doing what you want. To live an authentic life can seem difficult. Sometimes there will be unintended consequences. And I say: Bring on the consequences! In the end, it worthwhile. David Wood is a personal and business coach, and original founder of the International Academy of Coaching – a global technical training school. seeks to become a life coach? Get your free copy of “50 Power Questions for use with your life coaching clients, and to take charge of their own lives.