The Relationship Handbook
Monday, 29. July 2019
We have simply moved beyond the need for the old beliefs. We can release them because they have the most elegant options available to us now. Choice “N The third and final step is the choice. Once we are aware of our own beliefs and we have absolute control over them. Now we can choose to change our beliefs and change our reality. We have the power to change our lives completely in a moment, we simply need to choose to do so now. I’m sure cake has heard similar statements of motivation of any number of sources. While it is essentially true that we can change our lives with a simple choice, it is also important to read the small print: We must continue to make the choice again and again and again and again and again. The now when we decided to change our lives and is in the past. We must continue until the election of our new options, expectations and beliefs have become a habit. We need to continue to choose new options until we become second nature to us. Our past experiences certainly affect us. Shape our beliefs and expectations. As we continue to be guided by the past, we create experiences in the future. The past does not equal the future unless you choose to carry the past with us.
The cliche, “there is no time like the present” is not entirely correct. The truth is that there is no time except the present. The only time that matters is now. The past is irrelevant there is still future. The only place where we can act, in which we create, we can choose is now. While the past does not have influence or shape the future, many of the options and thoughts and expectations we had in the past are the old habits, and as the saying goes, old habits are hard to break. This is the stage where the progress of technology has eliminated almost a metaphor perfectly. Remember vinyl records? Those big things that came before CDs? The grooves on a record represents our old patterns. Records may be scratched, that’s one reason that the CDs are so popular, in fact-and zero represents a shift or a break in the pattern of age. The only way to change the age pattern is interrupted often enough that a new model begins to form. Our patterns are like grooves in the records. The larger the pattern, the deeper the groove, and further disruptions to take before making any permanent change in the pattern. Every time we realize that it has become back to our old, negative behaviors, we decided to take a different path. Sometimes we can be so caught up in our old patterns that can not seem to stop ourselves. It is essential that we can not beat ourselves by not being able to change old habits and behaviors at the first attempt (or even second or third attempt)! It may not have completely eliminated the pattern, but that has changed is this: The fact that we knew we were representing a pattern of age is, in itself, a change in that pattern. Every time we find the pattern, you will realize that before. Finally, we will also be able to interrupt the pattern. And when we break our old patterns, we have the power to choose a different answer, more elegant and supportive.